10 Underwood Place, Clifton NJ                                        216 River Ave., Lakewood NJ                                        441 Route 306, Monsey NY


Center for
Mindfulness & CBT



Emotionally Focused Therapy
Core Skills Training

(Please note this training that training is only available for those who completed the EFT 4-day externship)

Facilitator: Debi Scimeca-Diaz, LMFT, LCADC, Certified EFT Trainer and Supervisor



Core Skills consists of four 2 day trainings. The steps and stages of EFT, as well as the corresponding therapeutic interventions, are divided and covered in greater depth and detail over the course of the four trainings. The following is the standard Core Skills schedule:


Weekend 1: Steps 1 and 2
Weekend 2: Steps 3 and 4
Weekend 3: Steps 5, 6, and 7 Withdrawer Re-engagement
Weekend 4: Steps 5, 6, and 7 Blamer Softening, as well as Steps 8 and                    9 Consolidation


In a Core Skills series we will schedule two live sessions (usually weekends 2 and 3), and in addition, each participant will have an opportunity to present his/her work to the group. The trainer will incorporate all methods of learning and teaching, using powerpoint, video, and role-plays for practicing new skills. We have found this to be the best way for learning an experiential model such as EFT and for working toward certification.  


Learning Objectives


Weekend 1

·         Participants will be able to define the elements of the EFT                      Assessment

·         Participants will be able to create alliance with both partners of              the couple

·         Participants will be able to identify the core conflict between the            couple and the negative interactional cycle

·         Participants will be able to describe the key EFT interventions


Weekend 2

·         Describe the EFT interventions used in Stage 1 and Steps 3 and            4 of the EFT process

·         Describe EFT Cycle De-escalation

·         Perform skills in helping each member of the couple access                    unacknowledged feelings that influence the reactive behavior -              Step 3

·         Perform reframing the negative cycle in terms of underlying                    feelings and attachment needs - Step 4


Weekend 3

·         Define the steps in the EFT Stage 1: Assessment and Cycle De-              escalation process

·         Define EFT Stage 2, Steps 5-7 working with Withdrawer Re-                  engagement

·         Identify the implicit attachment needs, fears and view(s) of the                Withdrawer - Step 5

·         Initiate acceptance of the partner once the sharing has occurred            - Step 6

·         Initiate engagement of couple when the Withdrawer expresses                their needs and wants - Step 7


Weekend 4

·         Define EFT Stage 2, Steps 5-7 working with Blamer softening

·         Identify the Pursuer's disowned attachment needs and fears and            view of self and other - Step 5

·         Assist the Pursuer expressing their attachment needs and fears            - Step 5

·         Initiate acceptance of the Pursuer's experiences by the                          Withdrawer - Step 6

·         Initiate Pursuer requesting emotional engagement and                          organizing bonding events that redefine the attachment between            the partners - Step 7



Below is the calendar of dates for this Core Skills series. Each two-day segment will run from 10am to 6pm on Thursdays and 9:30am to 3pm on Fridays.



Center for Mindfulness & CBT

10 Underwood Place Suite 16, Clifton, NJ, 07013


Core Skills 1: Thursday and Friday, April 19th and 20th, 2018                                   - Steps 1 and 2

Core Skills 2: Thursday and Friday, June 7th and 8th, 2018                                       -  Steps 3  and 4

Core Skills 3: Thursday and Friday, September 20th and 21st, 2018                           - Steps 5, 6, and 7 (Withdrawer Reengagement)

Core Skills 4: Thursday and Friday, October 25th and 26th, 2018                               - Steps 5, 6, and 7 (Pursuer Softening) and Stage 3

Please click HERE for additional details and to download registration form. Please complete as directed and mail with payment to Debi Scimeca-Diaz.  

For any other questions, please contact Debi at dsdiaz@couplestherapynj.com 

or contact us at info@mindfulness-cbt.com